Commitment is something you can find in every aspect of life. You can be comm
itted to god, your religion, your career or your relationship. The definition of commitment in the Cambridge dictionary is as followed:
“a willingness to give your time and energy to something that you believe in, or a promise or firm decision to do something.”
So, what does that mean in terms of relationships?
Commitment is based on respect, loyalty, devotedness as well as honesty. If you both bring those traits into your relationship I am sure that all that distraction and temptation is easy for you to overcome. Open communication is key, that means trying to understand each other, listening while going all in with your feelings and thoughts without hiding important things. For me that is a crucial factor in a relationship or else it won’t last. I want someone who tells me straight out what he wants/needs. Someone who will listen and talk to me when there is a problem and who is not leaving the room because he thinks that I got an attitude problem. Someone who is not flirting/cheating with women on social media or in real live. Commitment is based on respect and if you can’t show respect then you don’t deserve me as your girlfriend or wife.
Working on your relationship is an everyday task. It is work you need to put in, but when you love someone you will be willing to invest in your relationship. I am either going to give 100% or not be involved at all. Keep in mind that you can’t win a lost battle though. When you start fighting battles you cannot win, you are devoting most of your energy and feelings to a lost cause. It takes two to make a relationship work, so if only one person is putting forth the effort then you should reevaluate your relationship.
These days people use the phrase, “I love you”, loosely and with no meaning and then end up getting married or having children too early without learning the importance of what consistency and commitment in a relationship means. Both parties need to have the same values and mindset in terms of relationships, or else it’s better to leave and go separated ways when you start to notice it’s not going anywhere. I know most of us think that there is maybe someone prettier out there, smarter or whatever but don’t get fooled by social media. If you always leave someone for that reason you will be forever alone. T.H.