Relationships are always full of challenges and you never know how it may end. Us
ually it is fun getting to know someone who used to be a stranger. But sometimes, there will be signs that you shouldn’t ignore, because something seems off. You are in the beginning of a relationship or maybe a couple for over a year now, but when you start to feel that something is not going well you should perhaps think clearly about what could be wrong. Here are my 5 signs, that tell me, its time to move on:
- They hide you
You may have been together for a while now but they still didn’t introduce you to friends or family, neither do they seem to talk about you in their circle?! They act pretty much like they “single“, when they go out with their friends and don’t seem to want to introduce you anytime soon?! There is no rule on when to introduce a new partner to your beloveds, but you shouldn’t wait too long because that will lead to doubt and shows, that you are not willing to commit. - Constantly testing your boundaries. They know that you said no for example, but they still provoke you and test your boundaries. What would you do? Or how much would you do for them? What about jealousy? They demand that you spend more time with them although you have things to do and get mad when you say no? All that testing can sabotage your relationship and make your partner feel pressured and unhappy.
- They don’t talk through issues
It is important to discuss problems when they occur otherwise they will pill up. Sometimes its okay to leave the room to cool down before you have another talk but never leave things unsettled. There is no magic bullet that will make things better, but talking about your problems can help to ease up the situation. A partner who doesn’t like to listen to you and is stepping out of the room although you were in the middle of a conversation (regularly) is being disrespectful and has clearly no interest in solving the issue. - You justify their bad behavior
Did they maybe hit you or tend to be emotional abusive, but you always make up excuses for their behavior? Like: They didn’t mean it, they were just drinking a little bit too much” or “They were stressed, and I was talking too much so they got annoyed”. Listen, there will never be an excuse for such a behavior and you shouldn’t keep up with it either. - Being together with an extreme egoist
Rules are broken and boundaries trespassed, but an egoist will rarely take accountability for any of it. It is harder to figure them out and you are sometimes on your own when you need help, because they rather get help then help others. Its mostly about what they want or need and you will never be their first or second priority. Don’t forget that you always have the possibility and opportunity to leave a unhappy relationship.
If you have a point to add which is important to you feel free to write a comment. T.H.